September 22, 2008


I may, on occasion, use this blog as a platform for my own evil agendas. Ok, maybe they won’t be “evil”, but I do have some thoughts I want to share now that I have your attention. After all, it’s my blog. :o)

Today I want to promote a movie. It’s a good movie, it’s got a great story line, and even a better message. The movie is called “Fireproof” and it’s made by the same producers that brought you “Facing the Giants” a couple of years ago. Now, I know what you may be thinking to yourself right now… "I saw ‘Facing the Giants' and the acting wasn’t much better than those guys in ‘Tell it To Tommy’”. Well, I understand and would probably agree. I have my own thoughts about “Facing the Giants” but you’ll have to ask me about them later. But for now, allow me to recommend “Fireproof”.

I was privileged to watch a pre-screening of this movie last month and was very impressed. Sure, the acting still leaves much to be desired – but it has improved. In fact, the lead role is played by none other than Kirk Cameron (aka “Mike Seaver” from “Growing Pains”- see, there's your 80's reference). The production is well done and as I said, the story line will keep you in the movie. It’s about a couple, Caleb and Catherine Holt, who have a bad marriage that’s getting worse and heading for divorce, until Caleb’s father convinces him to take a “love dare” for the next 40 days. The movie follows the successes and failures of this last ditch attempt to restore what appears to be beyond hope.

My friend (and boss), Bob Lepine has written a good review on which I could not improve, here's a short excerpt:

FIREPROOF takes us into the center of what life looks like in too many marriages. Much to Catherine’s disgust, Caleb looks at pornography on the Internet and dreams about buying a boat. Catherine has lost all respect for her husband, and is responding to the kind words and caring gestures of a doctor at the hospital where she works. Caleb and Catherine are two individuals who pass each other in the kitchen and who no longer share a bed—strangers living in the same house.

Read Bob's entire review here.

Lastly, there’s a book that is being released along with the movie. The book is called “The Love Dare” and I’d also recommend you picking up a copy at your local book retailer. I have my own copy and am very impressed – as much with the appendices as with the rest of the book (and I’m a pretty tough critic with books). The most important concept that the book teaches is one that deals with our hearts and addresses this question: Are we to FOLLOW our hearts… or LEAD our hearts? What do you think? I’d be curious to hear your comments.

You can watch the trailer below and/or visit the Fireproof website. Then make a date with your spouse or significant other this weekend and check out “Fireproof”. And, let me know what you think.


  1. I haven't seen the movie yet, but I also would recommend the book. There is also a "Fireproof Your Marriage" Couples Bible Study with DVD clips from the movie that Cindy and I have been doing and we really like it so far.

  2. We are looking forward to seeing this movie. You're right, should LEAD your heart rather than FOLLOW it. My sister is going through a divorce right now after 20 years of marriage and I can tell you it is just devastating for her and the two children. Breaks my heart to see so many people give up so easily.

  3. It's also true to follow your heart because there are situations that after so much of trying to win the fight you still lose the battle and your heart and soul can only be free by knowing when to leave. I know of someone who is a wonderful person,outstanding Christian and is going through this battle after 12yrs of being married. He is mentally abusive to her and the children. So would you think that is a good enough reason to follow your heart?

  4. I'm sorry to hear about your friend Kristen. I trust she'll be able to get some wise, biblical counsel for her situation. There's no way I could comment on what she should or shouldn't do without knowing more details - and of course this isn't the best venue to do so.

    The issue being addressed in this comment thread is the issue the Bible addresses so clearly. That is, the deceitfulness of the human heart. Consider these passages:

    "He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks wisely will be delivered" Proverbs 28:26

    "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?" Jeremiah 17:9

    Jesus said "out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders" Matthew 15:19

    These verses and others make it very clear that our hearts are not to be trusted - even the heart of a believer that has been changed (see Ezekiel 36:26-27) is still tainted with sin and selfishness and looks out for it's own interests.

    Instead the Scripture tells us rather than "follow" our hearts, we should lead our hearts (Proverbs 23:19), strengthen our hearts(James 5:8), guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), and set our hearts on things above (Colossians 3:1), etc.

    The Christian who is knowledgable of God's Word will have a conscience that is sensitive to what is right & wrong and therefore be able to make God-honoring decisions. I've heard the conscience described as a "skylight". It's not the source of light, the sun is (i.e., God's Word is our source of understanding) but the skylight merely lets in the light. Unforturnately sin dirties our skylight (i.e., hardens our conscience) and makes it difficult for any light to pass through.

    So to somewhat answer your question, "[when] is a good enough reason to follow your heart?" It's never wise to follow your heart - what is wise and truly freeing is to follow God's Word in the midst of difficult circumstances. Certainly God pulls people out of trying times, but mostly he pushes and preserves them through such times.

    You might have your friend go to for some helpful resources on this subject. Also, I'll be glad to continue this dialogue via email if you'd like.

    Thanks for your comment Kristen. Hope this is helpful.

  5. Another television appearance - Kirk Cameron & one of the producers, Alex Kendrick are featured on Dr. Phil promoting Fireproof.

  6. Thank you Aaron...I have sent her the wonderful advice you gave and she seemed very grateful. She is also going to set up a counseling session with her pastor and I hope that all will work out for her and the children. Thank you again for your help.

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